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May my suffering become the seed of my compassion. Jasmine Badge

Because I have experienced pain, I am able to embrace the pain of others. Because I have made mistakes, I am able to forgive others their mistakes. May my suffering become the seed of my compassion. Dear survivors, I am sorry you’ve been shut down, disbelieved, minimised, gaslit, invalidated, told to forgive and forget. I am sorry we live in a world that isn’t build to hold and support each other. I am sorry that people around you can’t look at your grief and pain and anger and you might feel very alone. I am sorry that you’ve had to bear the burden of teaching people to do better. You deserve so much more than being a giver. I want you to know that we are fighting for a world that can offer what we deserve because all of us deserve more than the crumbs being fed to us. We deserve compassion, kindness, support, space and understanding. Here’s are my Last 3 Complimentary Workshops I am offering in OCT. Why October? Yes, It’s #worldmentalhealthmonth !!! 1. Trauma Informed Parenting: Registration closing SOON@10pm 2. One Step Closer to Know Your Stress: In my previous post 3. Balancing & the art of juggling ~ JB
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Breakup hurts the most! No. Jasmine Badge

Breakup hurts the most! No. Sudden change in routines and the behaviour of someone who was once everything in your life. This change hurts a lot. It kills you deep inside into pieces … If you rush into a new relationship after a breakup, you are most likely trying to avoid the grief you don’t want to face and that’s not moving on. Moving on is not loving someone new but having no one to love but yourself and being happy. Sometimes the wrong people teach us the right lessons. The only bad experiences in life are the ones we don’t allow ourselves to learn from. Note to self: You are responsible for your own happiness. If you expect others to make you happy, you will always be disappointed. ~ JB
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Forgiveness is not a one time thing. Jasmine Badge

Forgiveness is not a one time thing. Forgiveness is a process. For the people that we love, we care , whether in a personal or professional context, our empathy and forgiveness require constant renewal. Here’s are the few good reasons to forgive: • Because we value peace • Because resentment and anger at bad for health • Becasue forgiveness improves our relationship with ourselves • Because it quiets anger and resentment. • Because it clears the mind and unpleasant feelings from past. • Beacsue we know life is not fair and unwanted things will happen. • Because we can’t enjoy the present moment without forgiveness. • Forgiveness is necessary for living the life we want. ~ JB
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Failure is something we all experience. Jasmine Badge

Failure is something we all experience. Each time we fail, we can learn from our mistakes and become a little bit wiser and more prudent. Failure can also be an opportunity to rethink our lives and grow mentally. I wish you the best of luck in your next endeavor. Now repeat after me: I have struggled and I will struggle again, but each time, I become stronger and I learn more about myself. Next time I struggle, I will struggle better. ‘My best’ will look different from day to day. My best, however that looked today, was enough. ~ JB
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Communicate with others as clearly as you can Jasmine Badge

When we think we already know someone, we stop making an effort to know them better. When we do not know someone, we make an effort to get to know them. Love is the state of not knowing, and of wanting to know more. Consider whether you think you already know your loved ones. If you do, you are failing to see them as they are right now. Don’t make assumptions : Stay curious, find the courage to ask question and to express how you feel and what you really think. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life/relationships. ~ JB
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You Are Not Alone Jasmine Badge

The most important thing in this life is to live, which is not the same thing as to survive. There is a clear difference between living and surviving. When we live, everything is more intense; colors are brighter, and we are emotional. Living is reserved only for the brave because it involves making decisions, overcoming complacency, and actively seeking our development and growth. If life were free of adversity, we wouldn’t even have any chance to grow. It’s in struggling to solve the challenges that life throws at us that our capacity grows and our resilience builds. Keep going. Remember: Growth happens outside our comfort zone, recovery happens inside our comfort zone. Both are equally important. ~ JB
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Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation Jasmine Badge

Witnessing someone being traumatised can impact your nervous system in almost the same way as if you are the one experiencing it. Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow. Reminder: To have a healthy relationship you need to unlearn the unhealthy shit you inherited from your family. ~ JB
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Thinking Is Hard Jasmine Badge

Thinking is hard. Thinking about some problems is so hard it can make your head ache just thinking about thinking about them. Rather than trying to fix it by thinking, set your mind at ease. A solution will rise to the surface. Remember that wisdom comes from stillness. Note to self: You cannot see your reflection in boiling water. Similarity, you cannot see the truth in a state of chaos or anger or frustrations. ~ JB
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What’s the nicest thing a friend (or anyone) has ever done for you? Jasmine Badge

The best thing for our nervous system is another human. The worst thing for our nervous system is also another human. Most clinical problems are reflected in our relationships with others. This is true etiologically; Experiences such as a lack of nurturance, interpersonal abandonment, neglect and trauma are among the most toxic experiences known, and in the opposite direction, social support, intimacy and caring are among the most uplifting. It is so important for humans to come together and support one another. There is so much power in speaking up! As we are actively encourage people to speak up, we must be mindful and respectfully create a safe space for them to feel comfortable doing so. Should there are times when you feel like no one is clapping for you, clap for yourself twice as loud, be your own biggest supporter. What’s the nicest thing a friend (or anyone) has ever done for you? ~ JB
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How are you managing disappointments these days?? Jasmine Badge

Unlike other emotions, disappointment is very tricky to express: It comes out as spiteful and biased, whereas if we keep it bottled up, it only gets worse. All of which makes it difficult to act either way. If we are depressed, we can at least say so and ask for help.  Similarly, if we feel sad, we can cry. But if we are disappointed, the feeling is harder to express because we have to explain it to the person who has disappointed us. How are you managing disappointments these days?? ~ JB
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